EP 60: Kaitlin’s Personal Enneagram Deep Dive

Today's episode is a special treat. I am releasing the most recent Patreon only podcast episode for you to tune into. This is the first time I've released the Patreon only at episode, so I really just really hope that you enjoy it. For this episode, I do a personal deep dive into my own angiogram type and talk through the questions that I asked our guests who were part of the recent enneagram series that we wrapped up. So, if you are a fan of the Think Happy Podcast, which I hope you are, um joining Patreon is a fantastic way to show your support of the show. It's only five dollars a month, and one of those funds go into having the podcast produced. Your support just truly would mean the world to me, especially now since I've taken the leap of leaving my nine to five to take a stab at do and Think Happy full time. So let me really quickly just tell you what bonuses you'll receive as a Patreon member. Okay, so each month you'll receive either a bonus podcast episode like the one you're about to listen to, or a bonus resource such as you know, worksheets and guides. One of my favorite bonus resources is a roundup of my go to recipes. Um, let's see some of the others. There's a roundup of some of my favorite affirmations. Just other really great resources like that. Patreons also received first DIBs at workshops and group programs, often with the addition of a Patreon only discount. Also. and of course as a Patreon you will have a special place reserved in my heart. So to sign up, go to patreon dot com backslash Think Happy. Patreon is spelled p a t r e o n. And again it's just five dollars a month. So two things that I want to bring up before this episode airs today.

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Enjoy this Patreon episode of my own personal deep dive into my enneagram type and yeah, I'll talk to you later. Why hello, everybody, I am here for another Patreon episode of the Thin Happy Podcast. Today's episode I'm really excited to do. So it is going to be about my own enneagram type. So I just wrapped up recording a series based off of the three angiogram triads, and inside of each episode, I got to chat with real life women just like us about you know, their enneagram types and ask them some questions and just learn more about you know, what each enneagram type is like when you're actually living out. So I thought it would be fun to do a Patreon episode where I went through the questions that I asked our guests and answer them for you guys. So, to start off, my angiogram type is a three wing two, so I'll tell you a little bit about what that means. So, angiogram type threes, we are often called achievers or the achievers. We are inclined to excel at pretty much everything that we do. We want to make ourselves known just by the world. We are super success oriented. We are we We seek approval and we seek validation from the people around us. We tend to be good mentors just for either our peers or for people who we are trying to help. And being an angiogram three that puts us in the heart triad and so for the heart triad are dominating corey. Motion is shame. So shame for a type three can cause us to feel just not good if we feel like we aren't being valued for our achievements. And so if you know, even if we are being really successful, we will end up having a lack of self confidence if we don't you know, get recognition for the stuff that we're doing. So that's a little bit about threes. Now, the wing two of me twos are called the helpers. Twos have a deep, deep, deep desire for for love and connection within themselves and with those who you know are closest to them. They are there to really support people in their circle. They're very generous and create strong, long lasting friendships with others. So being a three wing too, I do resonate with a lot of you know, all of the above, a lot of everything that I just talked about. the first guests or sorry, the first question that I asked guests on the episode or in the Angiograham series is you know what about your type do not do you maybe not resonate with as much. For me, like I said, a lot of it I feel is true. One thing that I don't feel is super spot on is the lack of self confidence. So for me, it really depends on how I'm looking at self confidence if if it's if it's self confidence in what I'm doing. A lot of the time, I feel very competent in myself you know, I believe in what I put my effort toward. I believe in what I put my time and energy into. So confidence in that aspect it's not really an issue for me. However, confidence when it comes to body image, I definitely have room for improvement there. I would actually say that I lack self confidence when it comes to body image. So that that's maybe something that isn't super spot on with a rewing to that, that lack of self confidence, because I think that mostly it's talking about in what you're doing. But um yeah, okay, so excuse me, let's go into So the next question that I was asking guests is really having to do with that dominating emotion. And so, like I said, for types inside of the heart triad, are dominating emotion is shame. And so the question that I presented to our guests was how does each guest handle feelings of shame? And so for me, um, this feeling it doesn't present itself as shame. It feels a lot more like disappointment. And I don't really know if disappointment, you know, maybe to appointment like falls under the umbrella of shame. I'm not quite sure, but it really feels a lot like disappointment. And truthfully, I take it hard, especially when I'm disappointed in myself for you for something or for lack of something. yeah, I take it really tough. I find that it can take myself a while to to forgive myself for things, and to I find that if I'm in a situation or a place like that that I will dwell on it for longer than I would like to and it's just hard for me to let go of it. And but yeah, ultimately, to me, it feels much more like disappointment than shame. Okay, so here we go, Here we go, Here we go.

Next part of the interview with the guests was you know, going through some tips to help overcome the feelings of shame. So some of those tips that we had talked about, we're clarifying expectations with others, practicing self care, asking for help for giving others, acknowledging hurtful moments, recognizing good things in your life, realizing your weaknesses and limitations, um, asking for help when it comes to separating what you do from who you are, analyzing what you feel with what you should be feeling, and beginning to practice kind responses to your personal mistakes or regrets. And so my question to the guests was, you know, do any of those tips just like really hit home. Did you just have a lightbulb moment? And for me, some of these tips that really hit home are realizing your weaknesses and limitations, asking for help when it comes to separating what you do from who you are, and practicing kind responses to your mistakes or regrets. So when it comes to weaknesses and limitations, this is something that I am constantly striving to be better at, and I think the Ultimately it comes down to boundaries. Recognizing that you know I cannot do it all. No one can do it all, No one expects me to do it all. I am the only one who has put this pressure on myself um to quote unquote do it all um, and that just is not sustainable or attainable or achievable. It's none of those things. Aaron Condrian is my go to for planners, stickers, and other organization accessories and can I tell you something cool. Think Happy is officially an Aaron Conduran affiliate. That means, when you shop Aaron Condron via the think Happy link, this podcast benefits by receiving a small commission from your purchase. You can shop my Aaron Conjured favorites via the link in my Instagram bio or on think happy code dot com under the shop category. Thank you for supporting the Think Happy podcast in Happy Planning, the next one. So separating what you do from who you are, I do feel like I can get so wrapped up and work because I love work. I love what I do so so much. I love it just in the deepest part of me. and because of that, I have a hard time separating from working, which if you listened to episode fifty of the podcast, you got to hear Oakley talk some about that. And again, it's something that I recognize about myself, and it just takes constant effort and just constantly trying to work on getting better at that.

Next up, the last one that I had mentioned was practicing kind responses to your own mistakes or regrets. So, like I had mentioned earlier when I was talking about those feelings of disappointment in myself, that is like primetime exam afole of how I need to practice being kinder to myself. And it's so funny because I preach to the thin happy community, I preach to my family, I preach to my friends all about being kind to yourself. And it is not something that I have a hund pent figured out for myself either. I think it's it's not the type of thing where once you reach that, you get to stay there for forever. No, I think once you reach it, you have to keep working to stay there. It takes continual, intentional effort. And that's where I am with it. So that's that now. The next part of this interview was about the levels of health, and so I am going to pull up the levels of health. I should have had this pulled up already. Sorry you guys, don't hate me. I'm pulling it up. I'm pulling it up and pulling it up. Let's say, let's see, I've almost got it. Levels of health. Here we go. Okay. So these levels of health, as I mentioned in the episodes with the guests, these have been taken from the Instagram account of Sarah Jane Case. She hosts the podcast called enneagram or enneagram and Coffee. So I do want to absolutely give her credit for writing this up in such a assistinct way. But so essentially, inside of enneagram there are three levels of health, healthy, average, and unhealthy. So for an angiogram type three, being in a healthy area, we release the idea that others determine our worth and we become free to explore the truth of what we are and what we really want. Through this, we can experience what it really feels like to be valuable and worthwhile through self exemptance, sorry, through self acceptance, authenticity and giving to others. So this level of health for me, what it looks like day to day, I feel like I like a lot of this sits pretty well with me. I do have a hard time releasing the idea that you know, my worth comes from achievements. That that's pretty tough, But I do feel like, you know, kind of the second part of this healthy level with feeling valuable and worthwhile. I really get that feeling when it comes to working with my clients, working with you guys, talking to you guys, teaching you guys, just being vulnerable with you guys. That I'm definitely in a healthy space when it comes to that.

Now, this second kind of moderate level is average. So one in any of Graham three is in the average level. We lose sight of who we really are and we try to be what we think will be most impressive to others. That I can definitely resonate with. I I feel like I can mold myself or put on not necessarily a mask, but put on a But I'm trying to think of even the word, and it's not pretending to be someone who I'm not. But I feel like I can make myself fit in to any group of people really, um and that's not always necessarily a good thing anyways. So losing sight of who we really think we are trying to be impressive to others, we may struggle with true intimacy and seek to be admired and desired first and foremost, so we aren't showing up truly as ourselves. so yeah, kind of you know the commentary I already added, I won't say it again. And then third is the unhealthy level. So what a three is unhealthy? We fear failure and experience intense impostor syndrome from the disconnect between what we say we are versus what we really are. Um yes, okay, so the impostor syndrome, the fear of fail year. Yes, definitely feelings that I can relate on or relate to. However, I don't ever really find myself in a place where I am something different than what I say I am, if that makes sense. I think that, I am pretty open and honest about who I am what I'm going through. yeah, So that's kind of how I feel about that unhealthy level. Let's see, let's see moving right along.

Next up, there were some scenarios that I had presented to the guests, and I'll tell you those scenarios and my answer to them also. Okay, So the first is give us an overview of your perfect day. Okay. So my perfect day will would definitely start just with some quiet morning time by myself with a delicious cup of coffee and um, yeah, just quiet coffee is what I like to call that time. Um, After my quiet coffee, my perfect day is going to include some sort of family time, um, hanging out with Oakley and Ellie almost soon to be also hanging out with James. Um. But then sometime throughout the day, my perfect day also includes time by myself, preferably getting a really awesome massage, just a really great massage. And then another part of my perfect day includes drinking some really great wine and eating a really delicious dinner. Food of course has to be part of my perfect day. And yeah, just smiles all around, everyone having a great day. Um, no fussy kids, no poop explosion diapers. I mean, if it's a perfect day, a girl can dream, A girl can dream. Next scenario. How do you handle last minute changes of plans? Not? Well? Like, That's pretty much all I have to say to that one. I don't handle last minute changes of plans well. Um. I am such a planner, and when things don't go according to plan, it does tend to rock me. Um, but you know, trying to get better at that second to last. How do you handle disappointment and how do you handle excitement? I've talked a lot about disappointment already. Um. How do I handle disappointment? I take it pretty tough, pretty hard. If if I'm disappointed about or with anyone other than myself, it's actually easier for me to get over disappointment. However, it's not something I can keep bottled up if I want. If I need to get over it quickly, then I need an outlet. I need to let that disappointment out and voice it. For excitement, how do I handle excitement? I handle it probably how you would expect. I want to share my excitement with other people. I I almost said, I get really excited. Of course, I get really excited. I jump up and down, I hug people, I I smile so big. Probably here right now. When I get excited, I get really excited, and I want to share that feeling with others and the people I'm closest with. Now, this last um scenario or yeah, whatever is what is something that gets you excited or happy that might seem strange to someone else? Okay? For me, something that gets me happy excited is having a well thought out to do list and actively and productively checking things off of it. It makes me feel so good, so happy, so pumped up and yeah. So those were the enneagram questions.

Of course, last, but not least, I asked each guest if they have a happiness hack to share with you. Guys. Y'all know I am filled with happiness hacks. The one that I will share with you right now. I actually did not like prethink of something to share with you guys. So the one that I'm actively trying to to keep in mind for my own life right now is to let go of things that you can't control. Um, don't let your energy, you know, be sucked dry, be sucked out by things that you don't even have control over. So let it go. It's hard, it's way easier said than done. Um all right, my friend. Well that's a wrap for today's Patreon episode. I hope you enjoyed it. I um would just love it if you would share this with a friend. UM yeah, yeah, the more the merrier in our special v I P. Patrion group. But I have a wonderful rest of your day and I will catch him next time. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for joining me for this week's episode of the Think Happy Podcast. If you just can't get enough, find me on Instagram at think Happy Underscore Co. That's CO, and online at thinkhappyco.com. See you next week.